One construct, the more porous one, will turn the trauma inward, criticizing, doubting and in general doing violence against themselves. The other will turn the trauma outward, blaming, attacking, belittling and in general acting out their trauma on others. This type of behavior is usually the one that gets labeled as narcissistic, this construct fragments others in its attempt to avoid its own fragmentation and wounds and further solidify its own identity. In as much harm that it can do, it can also turn the pattern around, claiming to be the victim, because deep under the layers of toxic justification and projection, that's what it is, a victim as well as bully. They will always be found together. The other construct, the more porous one, will try to make things better, try to take on and process the pain of the more bounded construct but will never really be allowed to fully access it because the other individual is not fully accessing it themselves. There will be moments of pure oscillation where both constructs can move temporarily toward a state of dynamic balance and in those moments, the love that is trapped within, or the love that has bee spread around, will meet in the middle as each individual and the relationship itself, wobbles in a state of openness and equilibrium. Because love is our natural state and love is always present and love equals oscillation, it is always a possibility and it is always in the underlying structures no matter how dysfunctional they may appear. This is something that is extremely useful to remember. Love is always there.