In every session I have done with a youth in the last few months, there has been a consistent pattern. I see a screen with lots of faces pulling on the energy of the child, or teen. The screen is directly in front of their face, making it hard to see anything else and the energy of it feels rather parasitic. In every situation moving the screen further out in their field allows their energy to return to a more balanced state.
This is a clear indicator to the drain that constant screen time has on our energy, but it does not seem to have the same effect on adults that it does on teens and children. I think this may have something to do with the fact that their frontal lobes are still developing and there is tremendous neuro-plasticity at that phase in our physical development as well as psycho-spritual plasticity as their psyche searches for where they fit in the world and how their higher senses function.
The constant interface with screens, numbs this sensitivity and the constant signals that come from our devices, create a sense of false urgency and imagined obligation to respond and interact leaving no time for contemplation, inner seeking, feeling or little interacting with the natural world, which is full of fractals that interact with us through multiple levels of our being, fractals that are not found in these screens and are not found in man made structures, no matter how beautifully they may be constructed.
Some simple things that we can do as parents.
Insist that your kids put down their phones at various points in the day. Insist that they make eye contact when interacting with other humans. Insist that they spend device free time in Nature every day. Talk about and create real time obligations that are not related to the virtual world that can so easily consume all of us.
Where as I am writing this in regards to youth and teens, this is practical advice for all of us who are, these days so committed to the virtual worlds that connect us all and make our lives, to some degrees more convenient.
There is another side to remember and that is that we all belong to the Natural World and these devices, where they are amazing pieces of technology, do not. Out Attention is our most powerful tool, we can use it to check out, or to Check IN! Remember to use your attention effectively to create the life that you do want to participate in and that includes how and when we use our Techno-Fairies aka phones and tablets.
Much love, Lady Justice.