I have been quite bestirred by all the ugly, hostile, misogynistic energy flying around in our faces. I believe there is something more powerful happening here though than the current clown show. I belive there is an awakening taking place. The rug is being pulled back, the muck exposed and we are being extended an invitation to flush this energy out and heal this seeping wound.
In many of the women that I have been working with lately, I have noticed, these symptoms have been coming up. Unspecified anxiety, fear of the future, irregular cardiac rhythms, tightness in diaphragm and gut, and feelings of restlessness. I have come to think of this as Trump Syndrome. I am not about to get political with this post, I am not discussing any political view here, nor this person as candidate. My investigation of this energy runs far deeper than pointing the finger at one man, as brazen and immature and flagrant in his embodiment of this pattern, as he may be. He is a symbol and a symptom. The energy of this pattern runs far deeper, and is way older and more insidious than the current poster boy has claim to.
I am talking about this energy as a Shadow subversion. I am talking about the psycho-spiritual energetic perversion of Masculine Entitlement and all the ways that it has subtly, as well as blatantly, infiltrated our culture. "Boys will be boys," is the motto of this pattern and for an aeon or more, women have been expected to turn the other, cheek, look the other way, make excuses, ignore and adapt in every way conceivable to the inappropriate use of this energy. This shows up in, how culturally, women are taught how to avoid being raped, rather than teaching men to keep unwanted attention to themselves, how the most common question asked in a male on female assault, to the woman is, "well what were you doing?" How we somehow just assume that men can't handle their feelings or even know what they are feeling and so we should just accommodate and adapt to their unresolved mommy/ daddy issues and the latent emotional content that is the affect of that, not mention a thousands of years of sending our boys and men to war. Praising them for destroying themselves, telling them, that is brave. Instilling in them values that ululate with violence and terror and the objectification of everything.
And here is where WE are failing men. Boys are expected to become men without actually having any really men to model themselves after. For years, they have been asked to tough it up, suck it up and "BE A MAN!" instead of just being a sweet tender little boy, who's trying to figure out the complexities involved in living in a human body. So they armor up, they subvert their feelings, they become rough and angry and stuck in aggressive patters against themselves and others, and the cycle continues ad nauseum infinitum.
Meanwhile the expectations put on women become more and more plasticized. Words like flawless, the pressure to not show any signs of aging, this insane drive to be perfect. Women now have to "be it all" and look great while doing it. This obscene value on prettiness suffocates us and is but a surface expression of beauty, which is a virtue, but which goes farther than skin deep.
Beauty is Depth itself. It encompasses the totality of the expression of someone or something, it is multifaceted, and it can be dark and frightening as well as light and appealing. What I am saying is Beauty is something else entirely; it is primal and it belongs to no one and it cannot be bought or sold. It endures in love and in our actions. It doesn't come out of a tube and you can't put it on, but deep inside you are Beautiful, for that is the truth of your soul.
What I am calling Donald Trump syndrome, doesn't see that, cannot feel it. With a DTS infection in place, life is objectified. Women are property, Natives are nuisances and Walls are the solution to all of our problems. Don't like the way that makes you feel, build a wall around it. Because that is working so well. I know this man is not the source of this pattern, but he is right now highlighting it. He is standing under the spotlight and the rug is being pulled back and we can see, we can feel the result of adapting to this energy for millennia. So this I say to every woman and every man who cares for women and for the feminine in himself, it is not ok, to "grab women by the pussy!" To kiss them, touch them without their permission, to use manipulate them to your own purposes for your own satisfaction. I will not leave the women out who play host to this pattern either, for it is not a gender biased thing. It's not ok to do this to men either. Ladies, go beyond seeing them as your source of security or financial stability. Go beyond seeing them for their cute buts and good hair. There is a soul in there. We ladies can objectify just as quickly as men.
But to talk about this pattern beyond gender. Its time to give back the people their responsibility for their own bodies! It's not ok to presume that you know what is best for someone else's body. Its not ok to mandate what a woman is allowed to do with her own body. We each bear the accountability of our human suit. We are charged with the care for it and therefore have the right to decide what we will or will not put in it. What will or won't be done to it, forced upon, or through it. This is a not the pace for a government edict, this is CHOICE at its most personal.
And here is another CHOICE that I believe we are coming to, the choice of, Will we or will WE not, harbor these hostile energies in our bodies, in our psyches anymore? Will we continue to adapt, to feel our heart rates race, our arteries clog as we close ourselves off to the truth of our inherent creative power? Will we continue to make adjustments for this syndrome, allowances, with terms like, "boys will be boys" (well of course they will, no one is holding them to the accountability of becoming men!) as an excuse for every intolerable violation under the sun? Will we continue to police each other so effectively that we become the patriarchal distortion without need for an outer authority to further inflict containment upon us? Will we keep teaching our daughters, "that all men want is sex" raising them to believe that there in lies their value, or that they dare not attempt real intimacy for guys are only after one thing.
Will we continue to pass our bodies off as commodities to the highest bidder, be it the food, pharmaceutical or beauty industry?
Will we claim our Power?
Will recognize these feelings bestirring in our bodies as the signs that they are are, the signs to wake up, un-home this hostile, distorted energy. Will we talk about why these continued modifications to sustain what has sadly become a rape culture, or maybe even, a rape planet, where everything is available to the highest bidder, where no resource is more precious than the unholy greed; from our soft sacred bodies, the homes of our spirit, our tools and allies for enacting our creativity into the world, to our WATER, our most precious resource, that from which life springs. All of which has been contaminated by these unholy energies of greed.
These, ladies and gentle-men, are the questions which I suspect bestir these uncomfortable feelings. These are the questions, which are raising our heart rates, amping up our anxiety pushing all manner of disgusting mannerisms, into the light. These are the questions that are begging us to ask, "Am I healthy within my current family of origin story, or do I need to change? Do I like where I stand in this culture, what I agree to, what I represent? Who am I? How do I FEEL? What Gifts want to come through me? What do I need to acknowledge, to challenge, to release to be FREE?"
We each have it within us to reach what has been called apotheosis, the state of divine inhabitance, but part of maturation is confrontation. We have to be willing to confront the energies, beliefs, patterns and identities that are keeping us small, that hold us in infantile immaturity. We have to be willing to look at those patterns, first in ourselves, in the eye and say, "This is unacceptable! I will not be silent, I will not be polite, I will not accept any more insults to this precious life. I WILL stand up for myself, for my right to be here, to be Love, to create, to thrive, to be embodied and in partnership with this place in which I dwell. I WILL consciously, playfully engage in life and all Her Beauty. Today I will be tender, I will be vulnerable I will be Brave. I will claim my Belonging."