NOW this is the exactly appropriate place to feel compassion, for the hurt, mangled, violated, angry and grieving part of you as well as any parts of you that have bonded with the abusive person, or internalized those patterns, voices, feelings and activities. That is where your compassion is needed, you to you. That is how you rebuild your boundaries, your energetic structure, your sense of identity and self worth. In that moment when grief and rage rear their ugly little heads, instead of running, numbing, shrinking in shame and false spiritual propriety, you plant your feet, lift your head and release that roar that has been stagnating in your belly for too long.